The first and foremost condition of loving kindness is that the person having wishes of sharing love with others must love himself without any condition. It is a fundamental principle of the nature that no one can share what he himself does not possess. Friendship with self is very much important, other wise it can not be developed and shared.
It has the characteristics of promoting the welfare of others. It comprises of four states :-
3. Sharing other’s happiness
One who has developed these characteristics doesn’t have any space in his mind for hatred, rivalry, competition, craving, aversion and other such defilements. Rather he would always be in equanimity in both praise and blame.
The deeds carried out for the welfare of others shall be accomplished without any desire of self well being